I decided to check up on this blog after months of absence and to my surprise, it's still pretty active on a daily basis with a consistent number of views. I suppose that ought to give me some incentive to write more frequently on here, but as of late, I've had very little to write about.
I used to vent on here because I was mostly troubled with my love life and it made more sense to me to vent publicly about someone that was--for the most part--anonymous to all my readers. However, in the seven months that I've been in a steady relationship, I have nothing to vent about. At least not angrily or sorrowfully. And given most of the people who actually read this blog actually know who I'm dating now, I don't think it wise to write about our sex life because as wonderfully exciting as I feel it is, it's one of those topics I'd rather keep to ourselves. Even describing it as "wonderfully exciting" is borderline more detailed than I would typically share about our sex life. *Cue bad imagery... starting....NOW*
However, if there's anything I have learned over the past few years, it's that no one ever gives a fuck about your relationship, but everyone still wants to know most of the juicy details for a fraction of a second's worth of entertainment because for some weird reason, most of us are simply wired to want to know about things we don't actually want to know about. True story.
You know, whether you're out with your boys or your girls you talk about normal stuff like school and work and family and friends and somehow that triggers one gossipy detail about someone's relationship that was heard in passing about them. Then the conversation goes back to some other topic of interest as if their relationship was never discussed and you and all your buddies go back to talking about toiletry brand preferences and the average height between floor to ceilings of levels in industrial buildings.
So, for those curiously looking to indulge into my love life just for the sheer entertainment of reading about someone elses life for a tidbit, or for those who are simply dying to know why Anthony of all people and me are together, I will explain.
You're right to assume that we have little in common. I was never into cars prior to dating him and for those who know him, he's what I like to call a "car junkie" or what he refers to as "gear head". He listens to a lot of rap music and dad rock, meanwhile I'm into virtually everything, but neither rap music or dad rock are personal favourites. And although I do enjoy listening to both genres of music, he hates all my music. I read a lot and he doesn't read at all. I'm very artistic and creative in more ways that take you out of reality than keep you in it, while he is creative in his own way, his ingenuity is very logic-based and for the most part, he does things creatively to enhance things that can be modified for functional and performance purposes. We don't have the same taste in foods and although I do like most of the things he eats, he hates almost everything I eat. Even our taste in telly series and movies are vastly different and the only thing we truly share in cinematic preferences are comedies and man-movies with "car chases, explosions and tits" Meanwhile, I can't stand old-western movies and he seems to love them, and I like a lot of dramas and nerdy fantasy fiction which I have to drag him to watch with me. I'm big on home decor and little details like pattern and colour schemes, from shapes to accents and various finishes and textures. He couldn't give a single crap and again, it doesn't matter what it looks like to the creative eye because aesthetics mean little to him in comparison to function and efficiency.
So why are we together if our likes and hobbies are so dissimilar.
I don't know to be honest with you. It doesn't make much sense to me either. All I know is that when it boils down to what we both value in our lives, the convictions we hold on to and what we stand for as functioning and contributing members of society, we're one in the same. Our principles and ideals with the way things are and should be are on par with each other and our opinions about most things like family and friends and relationships are parallel. Our objectives are the same and the path we prefer to take to get there are the same so I know I'll always have him by my side when I need him. I know that when it comes game time and I need to make an important decision, our minds work so in sync with each other that he will always come out making the same choice as me. It's gotten to the point where even if one day our decisions clattered with each other, I know that we both value each other too much to let a disagreement like that get in the way and we're both open-minded when it comes to making compromise.
If that makes sense to anyone, then there you have it. We don't make sense as a couple if you look at it for all the superficial reasons, but when it comes down to building something strong and something that really matters, we're always on the same page and I can't say I would trade that for anything else in the world.
